What is impeding the flow?
About six months ago, I noticed a significant drop in the number of individual clients. At first I thought it was due to the vacation season, but in September they did not return... Soon I was overcome by fear and panic. Fear of (financial) shortage, panic that I wouldn't be able to pay my bills. And even worst case scenario thinking that my practice would go bankrupt.
I noticed that one moment I would go into action mode and overdrive and do all sorts of things to still frantically rake in money. The next moment I was completely apathetic and fell into a kind of lethargy where I did nothing and let the minutes, hours and days pass by.
At some point when I saw through this pattern, this coping strategy, I turned inward to feel through what it was really about. It quickly became clear to me that underneath the fear was grief. Grief at going down the same road as my parents and having to live in constant stress because of the financial deficit.
Link to the family system
As a child, I saw in my family of origin that my parents were not well off. Every Belgian Frank was turned over and every expense weighed and weighed. My mother even kept a small notebook in which she noted every expense. Foolish expenses were not made and allowing yourself something only happened sporadically.
So I was given this image of financial shortage from home. And also the message that you do have to work hard for your money and that it doesn't come to you effortlessly. As those images and memories of the home situation resurfaced, I could also see how loyal I was to my family system in this way by lingering in that fear, stress and panic.
"I don't do better than you, mom and dad. I keep myself small and do not rise above you. I do this out of love and loyalty to you - my parents."
Transformation
Shining my light on this old, limiting story also allowed me to symbolically bow to my parents' fate. And see that their money story doesn't have to be my money story. That I can consciously choose abundance, effortlessness, flow. That money as energy may flow both toward me and away from me in a kind of lemniscate, a dynamic flow.
I don't have to hold myself back and keep myself small. On the contrary. I honor my parents and my family system the most when I take my place, sink into myself, allow my strength and also my vulnerability and stand in the world with all my qualities and pitfalls. I get to stand in my greatness and (financial) abundance is my birthright. I grant it to myself just as I grant it to everyone around me.
When I could feel this at a deeper layer it started to flow in myself again. I was no longer held back by those limiting thoughts and beliefs. The past doesn't have to define me. I get to choose my life. A life that flows more naturally, freely and consciously than that of my family system. And even when I choose myself I still belong to my family system.
By beginning to systemically explore and transform this fear of (financial) lack, things began to flow again in my practice as well. Even to the point that I am considering a client stop and working with a waiting list so that I can maximize the balance between self-care and being present for my clients.
Do you recognize this?
Are you also curious about your limiting beliefs and stories and do you want to explore how you can transform them through constellation work so that it can flow fully again in yourself and your business, be welcome in the Business-Flow-Traject.
During the Business-Flow-Traject you can explore the obstacles around your soul's longing. How wonderful it is to return the pain you carried in your family system with love and gentleness and to free yourself from burdens you have carried for years. You feel lighter, more energetic and more connected. You dare to be more yourself in your business and stand in your full power. Your business starts to flow like never before.
